Learn how to write wedding vows that sound like you

(Because love deserves words that feel real)

If you are planning your wedding in Bournemouth, Poole or Southampton, there is a good chance you are thinking about your vows and possibly dreading them just a little.

You are not alone.

There is a certain kind of panic that hits couples when someone says, “Are you writing your own vows?” Cue the blank stare, the nervous laugh, and the sudden desire to Google “romantic things to say without sounding like a Hallmark card.”

I get it. Standing up in front of your favourite people, trying to sum up everything you feel about the person you love, that is a big ask. But here is the thing: the best vows are never about perfect poetry. They are about truth.

How to write wedding vows that feel real

You do not need to sound like anyone else.If you would never say “I give you my heart for eternity,” then please do not. Say “I still fancy you even when you steal the duvet,” or “I promise to make you a cup of tea before I moan about my day.”

The most moving vows are often the ones that sound like a normal conversation, just with a bit more love threaded through.

When my couples are happy, so am I

A little structure helps

If you are stuck, try this:

1. A memory — how you first met, or when you knew it was love.

2. A promise — what you will try to do (and probably fail at sometimes).

3. A hope — what you are excited for in your life together.

   
   

It does not need to be long. A few sentences that come from the heart can say everything that needs saying.

Do not worry about being funny or profound

You do not have to make everyone cry (though you might).

You do not have to make them laugh (though you might do that too).

The goal is simply to make your partner feel seen and loved, in your own voice.

And if you need a little help…

That is where I come in. As a wedding celebrant working in Bournemouth, Poole and Southampton, I help couples find the words that feel right whether that is guiding you through writing your vows, creating a ceremony script that fits your story, or simply helping you calm those pre-wedding nerves.

Because when you stand there and speak from the heart, it will not just sound like vows.It will sound like you two.

💍 If you would like to find out how I could be your celebrant, I would love to chat.

Give me call or drop me an email, tell me about your plans, and let us start shaping a ceremony that feels true to you both.