What to expect from our family meeting

As your celebrant, my role is to help shape a funeral or memorial that truly reflects the life, values and character of the person you have lost.

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At our family meeting, we will take time in person, over the phone or virtually, to gently explore your loved one's story together. This is not a tick box exercise, it is a relaxed conversation. I will ask about their life, loves, quirks, challenges and triumphs. Whether you are after something traditional or informal, quietly reflective or gently uplifting, with faith, without, or somewhere in between, I am here to listen and help build a ceremony that feels personal, honest and meaningful.

 

I am also mindful that every family is different. If there are particular cultural customs, family dynamics or sensitivities to be aware of, we can talk these through and make sure the tone and content of the ceremony feels right for everyone involved.

 

How we talk about them

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One of the first things we will explore is how you would like them to be referred to throughout the service. Were they always Mum to you, but Sally to others? Did they have a much-loved nickname, or a name they preferred not to use? These small details matter and help set the right tone from the very beginning.

 

The service itself

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At the meeting we will explore how you would like the service to feel. I will ask about:

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• Music choices (for entrance, reflection and exit)

• Any poems, readings or prayers you would like included

• Whether you would like religious, spiritual or non-religious elements

• The overall tone uplifting, gentle, simple or reflective

• Who might like to speak or share a tribute

• Any visual tributes or personal touches you would like to include

• Everything is optional. There is no right or wrong way to honour someone. This is your space to remember them in a way that feels right for you and your family.

 

Their life story

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We will talk through the chapters of their life, where they grew up, their education, work, relationships, passions and interests. I will ask about:

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• Their personality and character

• Favourite memories or funny stories

• Life challenges or proudest moments

• What they meant to others

• What you would like people to remember most

 

These stories are the heart of the ceremony, and I will use what you share to create something truly personal.

 

A final word

 

You do not need to have all the answers ready, but it can help to spend a little time thinking about what you might like to share. You might want to gather a few photos, jot down favourite memories or ask others in the family what comes to mind when they think of your loved one.

 

Some people find it helpful to have a quiet chat together before we meet others prefer to talk things through for the first time with me. There is no right way, just what feels most comfortable for you.

 

When we speak, I will guide the conversation gently and give you space to reflect. This meeting is simply a chance for us to start shaping something meaningful together.

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If you have any questions before we speak, or if there is anything you are unsure about, please do get in touch. I am here to help.